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“A big "fuck you” to those of you who have the audacity to claim that I’m so naive and stupid that I would allow myself to be taken advantage of and manipulated.“ - Kurt Cobain
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Table of Contents -
○ Section I - Physical Violence & Emotional Abuse
○ Section II - More Manipulation & Media Grabbing During Marriage & Post Death (Past to Present)
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Being abused never makes you weak and stupid. We are going to show you the insidiousness of what abuse is. Courtney Love is our example of what it looks like.
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○ I kept making excuses for my wife: she just needs help she will get better, she was drunk, she is just stressed, she has been through a lot. Then I started rationalizing such irrational behavior which led into me thinking I’m the crazy one.
I used to take it jokingly also about wives abusing husbands. That was until I found myself breaking down because of it.
I’m normally a strong person. I’m a soldier and a paratrooper, I swallow my fear and it ignore it when it comes to the moment I have to jump from the plane. I have been through Afghanistan and rocket attacks constantly and made it through.
I finally admitted to myself that I am in fact a victim of spousal abuse.
[2012 Submission From Male Domestic Abuse Survivor To Batteredmen.com - Ctrl/Cmd + F = “I am currently sitting in a crisis recovery center”] ○
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Section I - Physical Violence & Emotional Abuse
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June 4, 1993 [framed and retracted]
Read Pages 1 - 4 (Page 4 is crucial)
Courtney assaults Kurt with an object, calls the police to frame him for domestic abuse, including scratches, and later admits that the scratches weren’t from Kurt but were caused from a guitar string and dropped all charges. Kurt would later cover her ass for multiple publications in a way to minimize her abuse of him that took place. Best ‘I ran into a door / I fell down the stairs’ excuses to minimize and hide abuse ever.
Note instances where the story changes each time.
> 93 Hole Interview (1:43 - 2:38) - “We were having a fight about something and the neighbors called the cops.”
> July 93 Seattle Times Interview - “We were just playing loud music in our garage and the neighbors called the cops..and we’re super compatible <3″
> 93 Guitar World Interview (Kurt Cobain) [ctrl/cmd + f - “june”] -
Kurt unknowingly reveals that he’s covering for her by trying to say that they weren’t ‘fighting or arguing at all’ when Courtney said in another interview that they were actually just fighting and the official police report has her 911 statement saying that Kurt was abusing her. He covered for her and it is also the sort of behavior that female abuse victims practice to protect their male abusers in other domestically abusive relationships. The ‘loud music’ cover story was also used by her in the previous extract.
> 93 The Face Magazine Interview (Kurt Cobain) [ctrl/cmd + f - “drunk”] -
Similar story to the guitar world interview but with major changes. This one was also done the same day. However Kurt mentions that he was ‘drunk’ in this one opposed to the other version of this story he told that day. He covers he ass for her in this one just as much. He also says in the guitar world interview that they WEREN’T fighting and were just playing music loudly and in this one he said they WERE fighting. Also admits to having ample time to plan the story about the event to send to the press.
> 93 SPIN Magazine (Kurt Cobain) [ctrl/cmd + f - “sid”] -
Story changed again. Opposed to ‘we were just playing the music loud and the cops came’ and ‘we were fighting and someone called the cops’ it changed to ‘we were just running around yelling and screaming being sid and nancy esque and the cops came.’ Was also interviewed the same damn month as the others. Same_damn_month.
> Everett noticed these contradictions as well in Chapter 25 of his bio.
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March 4, 1994 [manipulated and skewed]
Courtney cheated on Kurt multiple times (click here and here) and it came to a head during the Rome incident. Kurt confronted her after she avoided seeing him for a month during his European tour and denied the accusations. As a result of her ongoing lies and deflection, the situation was a catalyst for the abuse she was perpetuating through out the entire relationship. He attempted suicide. Courtney would later use PR to whitewash the event to downplay that she directly made him more suicidal. The whitewashing continues to this day.
Notice the undermining. ‘He just needed to get laid.’ | ‘It was just a tiff.’ | ‘He just felt rejected like omg so annoying.’
>March 1994 Tom Grant Recording [Listen To : BEF-154c] - “I was being all glamorous and he was up in Slovenia and he got real depressed and he wrote what was basically a suicide note. He claims he was leaving me.” (Note - We do not support the conspiracy, just Tom’s hard data)
> May 1994 Select Magazine Interview - “This was just a tiff between me and Kurt, OK? That was what it was. A tiff. He was just upset that he was in some awful place and I was away enjoying myself shopping. It was not a suicide thing.”
> July 1994 AOL Posting [cmd/ctrl + f - “when he came out of it”] - “I don’t think it was jealousy on Kurt’s part not until Rome…when he came out of it he asked for me not to call Billy - which was rare occasion anyway.”
> December 1994 Rollingstone Magazine Interview - “All he needed was to get laid. He would have been fine.”
> 95 Spin Magazine Interview - “He must have woken up and started writing me a letter about how he felt rejected. But I’m not sure I believe that because he wasn’t rejected. We both fell asleep. Anyway, I woke up at, like, four in the morning to reach for him, basically to go fuck him,.”
> 2015 (Previous Link) Montage of Heck Film Soundbite Audit - [In reference to Rome] - “I certainly thought about it one time in London. He thought that I was cheating on him. He must have been psychic or something. I didn’t do it, but I thought about it.” (Note - We have verification, through Courtney’s accidental corroboration, that she cheated on him with Billy in London from a timeline we set up)
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○ I had thought of calling the police that night. When I recalled this incident to my divorce lawyer some time later, his response was: “It’s a good thing you didn’t, because the police probably would have arrested you.” : He explained that my wife probably would have claimed that I bashed the door to beat her, and the police would have taken her side
[2012 Submission From Male Domestic Abuse Survivor To Batteredmen.com - Ctrl/Cmd + F = “I couldn’t believe my eyes”] ○<
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March 18, 1994 [framed and retracted] *see court docs below*
After Rome, the already violent fights between Kurt and Courtney escalated and it lead to an incident in which Kurt locked himself in a room to get away from her. In order to force Kurt back into submission Courtney called the police and used his suicidal tendencies as blackmail by pretending that she was ‘scared’ that he might commit suicide in a room full of guns. She later admitted as the police report was filed that her claim was false.
As always, notice the undermining.
** Police Documentation of Incident ** + Can also be found on The Smoking Gun if anyone wants to act like Grant is bullshitting (we’re anti-conspiracy but the guy does post hard data occasionally on things that are relevant)
> SPIN 1995 - “How could I not when he talked about it every single day? If there were 99 dots on the wall, he was going to kill himself. If such and such happened that day, he was going to kill himself.”
> [Collection of quotes - ctrl/cmd + f - “march 18″] - She also invented an anecdote about the situation and used his suicidal tendencies, again, to sensationalize the event and frame him overall.
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1993 - Courtney pushes Kurt to attempt suicide by jumping from a high rise balcony in Sao Paulo, Brazil (Everett True - Nirvana, The True Story, Page 445) (x)
1993 - A bird’s eye view into Kurt’s relationship with Courtney. Ctrl/Cmd + F - “Kurt” to see all of the emotionally manipulative and baity tactics she uses
1993 - Courtney subjugates Kurt to violence during their arguments and this was one of many cases where it lead to Kurt ODing because he couldn’t take her abuse -
[There was obviously a massive altercation going on between Kurt and Courtney. You don’t want to get involved in a husband and wife dispute…You could hear the odd thing being smashed…
had to keep going between the rooms and the lobby, telling the journalists ‘It’ll happen, but everything’s kind of running late,’“ Brookes told The Fly. Come the afternoon, "We realized we should go in. We went rushing into the bathroom and slumped behind the toilet was Kurt with a syringe in his arm, blue.”
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+ alternate account 1
+ alternate account 2
Melissa Rossi (Queen of Noise author) documents Courtney emotionally baiting Kurt’s insecurities by saying that she’s cheating on him (1) +
Kurt does heroin to get back at Courtney for talking about their private lives to the press (x)
Documentation of Courtney buying expensive objects with Kurt’s money in order to piss him off (Everett True - Page 466 - 467)
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** Excerpts from Everett True’s biography**
[Specific Unlisted Domestic Violence Cases]
> March 1994 - “It was the only time I ever saw Courtney punch Kurt.” [Lovesick - Chapter 28]
> 1993 / 1994 - Another case of Courtney assaulting Kurt with objects and she called the cops. [Eyes Wide Open - Chapter 25]
> Also note that there is nothing ‘volatile’ about a relationship where a partner does what she does to a person. You call it volatile when both partners are in on what’s going on. You don’t [ switch ] between that and blackmailing them and calling the cops to force them to interact with you or to force them to submit. You wouldn’t have to switch if your partner were really in on it. You don’t exploit them, coerce them, emotionally manipulate, or beat them down - when it’s obvious they’re actually afraid of you opposed to excited - and call it ‘volatile.’ You don’t fucking plot to get pregnant by someone because they’re famous, spend the entire marriage calling the cops on them to make them submissive, alienate them from their friends, make them lie for you, and then treat their suicide and legacy as a career advantage and call your relationship with them ‘volatile.’
Sid and Nancy were volatile for example. They pushed each other’s buttons and went to extremes, but at no point did they ever truly disrespect each other or make the other feel worthless. Reading Viv Albertine’s autobiography and the letters (available online) between Sid and Nancy’s mother can provide some insight into that. There was mutual destruction but neither of them believed that the other was less than them. That’s the difference. That’s like saying that an abusive husband who beats his wife while he’s screaming that he loves her and she’s crying is ‘volatile.’ Abuse is not volatile. Abuse is hostile. Abuse is not loving. <
[Multiple Unlisted Domestic Violence Cases] -
> “That fight where the cops came was by no means the only one.”
[Eyes Wide Open - Chapter 25]
+ [Further Context] - ‘Neighbors recalled that police cars had appeared at the couple’s home on several occasions’ [April 1994 - Chicago Tribune]
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Section II - More Manipulation & Media Grabbing
During Marriage & Post Death
(Past to Present)
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○ Her description of the family she came from hit home, and I found myself opening up to what I thought was some sort of kindred spirit. How many times have you heard that one? Or the “soul mate” line. By the time I opened up to this woman, I was past magical thinking and soul mates, so she got me with other tricks.
To cut a long story short, I was in a relationship with this woman for almost two years and it was abusive to my core. I am certain that I have PTSD and depression but have managed to lift myself out of it and exist through a healthy routine of exercise, good diet, no alcohol or drugs etc. I almost lost my business and she tried to have me charged with a crime I did not commit and ended our relationship with a restraining order. This was her second order in a row as she also broke up with her ex husband before me, the same way.
[2012 Submission From Male Domestic Abuse Survivor To Batteredmen.com - Ctrl/Cmd + F = “I saw your website and have been on other website dealing with the aftermath of the worst relationship in my history without doubt.”] ○
See link for the incident below in detail - Click Here
October 1991 - Courtney sabotaged Kurt’s developing relationship with Mary Lou Lord
October 1991 - Courtney forced Kurt to impregnate her
> [Context] - Look at how often she’s played this card. Any questions?
** 1994/1995 - Courtney plants headline that she is pregnant with Trent Reznor’s baby (read whole courtney bit above quote - cmd/ctrl + f - “immaculate”)
** 2002 - Courtney plants headline (multiple) that she miscarried manager/live-in boyfriend Jim Barber’s baby (cmd/ctrl + f - “jim’s baby”) + click
** 2004 - Courtney plants headline that she’s pregnant to journalists/paparazzi waiting outside of courthouse (June) + Courtney plants headline that she miscarried said baby (July)
** 2005 - Courtney plants headline that she’s pregnant with Steve Coogan’s baby + click
October 1991 - 1993 - Courtney coerced Kurt to write Live Through This, provide riffs and melodies, and production + [ Part 2 ]
> Further (more recently found) examples where she’s outed herself for lying about his involvement when you place every statement side by side can be found here
*Even more evidence found [more contradictions if you look at them all side by side] :
**(click here - look for the portion that starts with ‘She’s said in the past she was too distracted’)
** (here - look for the portion that starts with ‘It really, really bugs me.’ also note that she gives contradictory statements if you compare this to her saying that he didn’t even give her melodies, lyrics, etc, including the Old Age information that she reveals she contradicted if you compare this to the LTT conception timeline where we out her that we’ve linked previously)1992 - Courtney plants sensationalist anecdote about doing drugs whilst pregnant to Victoria Clark that she doesn’t count on people taking seriously and is blown up into the Vanity Fair debacle
** 2011: Courtney tries to blame Lynn Hirschberg as solely responsible for Kurt’s death
** [See : Page 197] Danny Golberg’s account of Courtney demanding the right to do what she wanted to her body [ note - he still covers for her but this anecdote still reveals that she did not give a damn about her child ]Courtney cheats on Kurt with Gary Young and lies about it to his face + [ event verification ]
1993 - Courtney forges aggressive note pretending to be Kurt directed at Mary Lou Lord that she uses to cut off contact between them (also see comments at bottom)
1991 - 1994 - Courtney systematically cuts Kurt off from his friends and replaces them with people she approves of or creates riffs between him and surviving ones
“Here’s a great story. Kurt didn’t have any real friends.” [Rollingstone 94] - (Courtney Love)
“Kurt has no friends.” [ctrl/cmd + f - “BEF-031″] - (Courtney Love)
“Kurt hated his band” / “Those guys were mean to him” - (Courtney Love - Hit So Hard 2011)
“Kurt’s friends are a bad influence” - (Courtney Love to Slim Moon) (Grunge Is Dead - Greg Prato)
+ She’d also go onto say that Slim Moon (because he was friends with Kathleen) was attempting to rip Kurt off [ctrl/cmd + f - “slim”]
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** Susan Silver puts it best [ 1 / 2 ]. She describes how in her interactions with Courtney, she made sure to systematically cut the women out of his life and that she’d bring attention to their drug use when they were trying to avoid it and she did this in a sensationalist way. However, it wasn’t just women. It was everyone.
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** Dylan [ 1 / 2 / 3 / 4 ] - Note, search for the word ‘Dylan’ in link 2. She routinely throws him under the bus in general. In this instance she implies that he’s to blame for Kurt’s death. Implied murder. Link 4 is another instance where she does this - cmd/ctrl + f - “dylan”. Link 3 is Dylan openly saying, years later, post Kurt&Courtney film that he thinks that she’s a bitch that’s getting what’s coming to her. Link 1 is also from Everett True’s biography in the Lovesick chapter.
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** Carrie + Ian Dickson [ 1 / 2 ] - From Everett True’s biography in Chapter 19 - Dirty Linen and Brimming Ashtrays. Note that she didn’t know that she considered Dylan to be one of Kurt’s ‘druggy’ friends that she cut off to isolate him further. The word ‘systematically’ is also used here again to describe Courtney’s removal of his friends. That’s twice from two different people.
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** Alice Wheeler [ 1 / 2 / 3 ] - Start Link 1 at 1:22:00. Note that Alice openly opposes Montage of Heck and that’s covered in link 3. In Link 1 she refers to Kurt being cut off by Kurt’s ‘handlers’ and if you add all of this context, the implication is that it was Courtney. It’s also good to check out 1:15:00 where one of their nannies and her friends talks about her controlling behavior. Again, multiple people. If that handlers bit can’t be heard it’s been mentioned in the interview from the film overall and Link 2 is a summary, ctrl/cmd + f - “handlers.”.
+ Corroborated by Tracy here (Grunge Is Dead - Greg Prato)
+Tracy has also recently (meaning 2015) gone on record about it as well
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** Buzz Osborne [ 1 / 2 / 3 / 4 ] - Link 1 covers Courtney trying to say that he intentionally tried to kill Kurt. She accused him of killing him because he openly said that Kurt wrote Live Through This. Similarly, she’s also accused Dave of being a bad friend to Kurt and secretly wanting to fuck her because he ALSO said that Kurt wrote Live Through This.
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** Krist & Shelli [ 1 / 2 ] - In her own book, she tells Poppy Z. Brite to write that she had ‘hated’ Shelli without context. Krist is more contextual because she started grouping in Krist with Dave in saying that Kurt ‘hated’ the members from Nirvana. It provides some insight into how we imagine she spun ideas in Kurt’s head about how he had no one to trust. Bonus - Barrett Jones’ firsthand account of the ‘termination’ process since he was there.
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** Dave [ 1 / 2 / 3 / 4 / 5 / 6 / 7 ] - Note that these all provide context because she decided to say that Kurt ‘hated’ Dave. Also tried to say that Dave not only wanted to secretly fuck her, but that Dave had a secret ‘crush’ on Kurt. It’s always sexual or obsessive, always. Not to mention that she started accusing him of everything under the sun, including that he was stealing money from Frances. Link 7 features her using Wendy (again - first time was when she filed a missing person’s report under Wendy’s name and had her tell the Associated Press that Kurt was suicidal to corroborate it) - but this time to use her to say that Kurt hated Krist and Dave.
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** Tobi [ 1 / 2 / 3 / 4 / 5 / 6 / 7 ] - Links 1 and 2 (are doubled for kathleen) can be found in Chapter 22 in Everett’s biography - Shut Your Bitch Up. Link 3 is the full extract from Courtney Love - The Real Story that was copied onto an old fan site. Link 4′s references are from Heavier Than Heaven (Chapter 13 for first screencap, Chapter 15 for last two). We bring these as evidence because Link 5 features what Tobi expressed in Everett’s bio (Chapter 13) how she felt like she was made to be a villainous character, simultaneously elevating Courtney. There’s context for this too because Links 6 and 7 show letters that Kurt wrote TO Tobi after he’d been manipulated by Courtney into believing that the Olympia scene - particularly Tobi and Kathleen - ruthlessly hated him for no reason - also from Heavier Than Heaven made a few years prior.
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** Kathleen [ 1 / 2 / 3 / 4 / 5 / 6 / 7 / 8 ] - Note that in Link 1, the ‘chased down street’ anecdote is a reference to Mary Lou Lord and we didn’t realize it until later. Link 5 starts at the 4:35 mark and note the sexism and the fact that she changes her story - obviously painting the person she harassed/assaulted as a petty ‘villain’ in some way. Kathleen was literally just standing there and was punched out by a person that she didn’t know personally whom she’d defended to people criticizing her. 4 different people there said that that isn’t what happened and they don’t have context to lie about something so petty. Search for ‘30 grand’ in Link 8. Link 1 is literally from 2014 and Link 8 is from 2013. That’s damn recent.
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+ There are numerous instances where she put Kurt in awkward situations where he had to choose between her and his friends or people he admired because Courtney had gotten into fights with them or their girlfriends and strained his relationships with them. This is a post that covers many of the women she’s tried to assault or come after, usually with Kurt smack dab in the middle.January / February 1994 - Courtney cheats on Kurt with Billy Corgan and lies about it to his face numerous times and the event is catalyzed via Rome suicide attempt + [ click here and here - the time line matches up and she admits in Link 2 that it does without realizing it ]
March 1994 - Courtney, despite her own drug use, scapegoats Kurt’s drug usage and uses her position as a mother to martyr herself and demonize Kurt via drug intervention
> Patty’s account. In this anecdote she also reveals that each one of them was a hypocrite because drugs were all commonly handled around the group.April 1994 - Courtney files a fake missing person’s report to hunt Kurt down pretending to be Wendy and coerces Wendy into backing her up
** Courtney’s coercion of Wendy to corroborate the story with a statement about Kurt missing to the Associated Press [ctrl/cmd + f - “missing”] read all 3 paragraphs where that word is used. Courtney admitted that she filed it and Wendy corroborating that means that she forced her to do it.April 1994 - Courtney plants fake story that she overdoses on heroin
+later admits to Tom Grant (actual audio taped conversations) that she’d planted them to draw Kurt out of hiding from her [note - listen to all 6 recorded conversations after ‘all publicity is good publicity’ until the conversations are recorded after Kurt’s death1992 - Present - Courtney scapegoats and sensationalizes Kurt’s drug usage despite the fact that she’s said numerous times that they were both using heavily
** Note - ctrl/cmd + f all of the keywords used in the article descriptions below
** Link 1 : 2:15+ | Link 2 : gobbler | Link 3 : sweet boy | Link 4 : strong and clean | Link 5 : salt | Link 6 : 8:57+ | Link 7 : pregnant | Link 8 : reportedly
| Link 9 : 12:05 - 12:20 | Link 10 : heroin | Link 11 : junkie | Link 12 : dealer + addict forever | Link 13 : hair [he also isn’t verifiably on heroin but she still fights him about it in front of frances on purpose |
[ 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13 ]90s - Courtney steals credit for Kurt’s song ‘Old Age’ [ctrl/cmd + f - “old age”]
1995 - Courtney plants fake story that her engagement ring was stolen on Valentines’ Day
1999 - Courtney lies about writing Nirvana songs [ctrl/cmd + f - “fucking gave” + more contradictions about old age song]
2001 - Courtney attempts to kick Krist and Dave out of the Nirvana LLC [ctrl/cmd + f -”dissolve”]
+ using Wendy as a mouth piece to force them to comply
+ official statement from Krist and Dave2001 - Courtney plants story that her wedding ring Kurt gave her was stolen
2001 - Courtney plants story that Kurt’s body was mutilated at funeral home saying that they ‘cut out his heart’ and the original rant she used to plant it was later deleted before it picked up too much traction [ctrl/cmd + f - “i wish i had a xanax”]
2001 - Courtney allows Charles cross to lie, twist, and sensationalize Kurt’s history - saying that he’d actually raped a girl and had sociopathic behaviors via Heavier Than Heaven
+ including ‘kurtney’ stories2007 - Present - Courtney, over a course of several years, plants numerous media bait headlines about an ‘in the works’ Kurt Cobain bio pic
+ 2007 | 2007 (2) | 2008 | 2010 | 2013 | 20142008 - Courtney plants false story about Kurt’s ashes missing
+ later retracts story and says that they never were+ bonus [further debunk]2009 - Courtney lies about giving permission to use Kurt’s image for Guitar Hero game and shifts blame onto Dave
+ Everett True outs her bullshit personally2003 - 2014 - Courtney rails on for almost a decade or more with various media bait headlines that Kurt’s money is being stolen [compilation post]
+2003 example [4:07+]2013 - Courtney plants fake story that Eric stole Kurt’s guitars
2014 - Courtney plants media bait headline about fake Kurt Cobain musical
2015 - Courtney’s full whitewashing treatment via Montage of Heck
+MOH reviews recognizing this whitewashing2015 - Courtney plants fake media bait story about MOH featuring extracts from a nonexistent sex tape (the scene was just them making out clothed on a bed)
